Dear Abby: Musical friendship hits a clinker

Dear Abby I have a friend Chris from our teenage days We ve been performing music together for decades We live in different cities but get together every sparse years Over the last years Chris has turned toward a fundamentalist viewpoint on religion I detected it too much to handle and have distanced myself In the last few days Chris contacted me to inform me that his mother had died I felt sincere about being supportive and helping him get through the loss so we started performing music together again It was going well and he wished to record one of my songs When I mentioned I had a demo of it he petitioned me for it I realized too late that the name on the file Pagan Christmas might be an issue I received this message back from him a week later I like the chord progression but was a bit put off by the title People I care about also identified the title offensive I ll do my best to purge it from my memory in the hope that you can present it later with a more inclusive and marketable moniker I cannot contribute to anything that could be perceived as having anti-Christian bias Abby I m going back and forth between trying to ignore his message and being angry Can you advise me on how to handle this situation Content Creator in Washington Dear Creator Nursing anger is a waste of your time Apologize to Chris for the oversight Tell him you didn t realize the title of the piece might offend him until after you had already hit the send button and then see what kind of a title you can agree upon If you are unable to reach a compromise tell him you would prefer that he not use the song Dear Abby I am a single -year-old woman never married with no kids I suffer from depression as well as a number of severe medical issues and live alone with three cats Lately I ve been feeling lost and confused about my life I don t know how to live my life since I got sick I miss being advancing with family and friends like I used to be I m confined to my house almost all the time Please give me specific advice on how to be less depressed and how I can be more proceeding in my life again and not dwell so much on my healthcare issues Cat Lady in Massachusetts Dear Cat Lady People become depressed for several reasons Because your depression is ongoing it s crucial that you discuss it with your physician A psychologist and medication could help you to cope more effectively with your challenges As to how to become more operational in your social life because I don t know how restricted your strength issues have made you I advise you to go online and contact a encouragement group or foundation for those who have the same biological conditions you do You may be able to find suggestions and society there Being able to talk with others who are in the same situation can often be productive Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren also known as Jeanne Phillips and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips Contact Dear Abby at www DearAbby com or P O Box Los Angeles CA